I have heard it over and over and over again that "SINGLENESS IS A GIFT". 🙄 It's not a nicely wrapped box with a big red bow on it. For the sake of my singleness, I’d like to interchange the word gift with perks, because it makes me feel a lot better about my current relationship staus, haha 😂. Ok I’m going to jump right into things, no fluff, the goods are below 😉!
#1 is a given, I don't have to answer to anyone. If yal know me I have a strong "get up and go" spirit. I literally don't have to consider a husband or any children. GO ME! ME GO !
When I'm home, I'm home. I am thee biggest homebody 🏠. I just be at home reading, thinking out loud, talking to myself (again if you know me, you know i enjoy my own company), singing loud and off key, and dancing in the mirror. What can I say, I have some free time on my hands.
I have more time to think about and build Roc Queen, www.rocqueen.com. I can hang out with my youth, help advance the kingdom whether that's serving with a mic or a mop. All these things make my heart smile ( I won’t stop doing these things, single or not, I'll just have less time to do so).
Ain't nobody looking at me alllllll thhhheeee timmmmmeee 👀. Seriously, that moment after I wash my hair and right before I straighten it, can be very SCARY 🦁. And sometimes my winter lip, bleeds into the spring 🙊 .
I have young girls watching me. I am not around here, moping around talking about "don't nobody won't me 😭". I ain't posting provocative pictures on social media setting myself up for a thirst trap. I ain't sliding in and out of DMs 🏊🏾. And I'm not entertaining, engaging, or encouraging passes from men who are not unavailable.
(TRUE STORY, Barb as my witness: I was in Chicago 3 weeks ago, and a married man took off his wedding ring and tried to talk to me. First of all I'm too single and way too observant for that. I saw the 8mm wedding band with a black matte finish, on his finger when I walked in the door (I told you I was observant). AND just like magic, POOF!! It disappeared!! 🖐🏾🙅🏾NOPE, I'M NOT THAT GIRL🖐🏾🙅🏾).
I can change my mind about 15 times before deciding what to have for dinner, WITHOUT somebody getting mad at me 🤔🍕🌮🌯🍱🍝🍣. Forget it, I'm drinking lemon water... JK sushi it is 🍣.
Sometimes God wakes me up in the middle of the night and I don't have to whisper. It could be 2am and I'm using my 2pm voice. 📢 📢📢 YES GOD? REPEAT THAT, WHAT YOU SAY?....YOU WANT ME TO DO WHAT?!?!?
Ain't nobody checking all my purchases or my frivolous spending. YEP, I’M GOING TO ANOTHER BASKETBALL GAME, 🏀😝🏀!!!
More time to prepare for my person 😍😍😍: spiritually, emotionally, physically, financially, and mentally.
And lastly, knowing this isn't forever, and this season is a gift that has its perks. I don't want to treat it like a burden, it won't be like this always and when it ends, I don't want to be singing I woulda, coulda, shoulda. One day I'll be a happy wife, and a even happier mother. And I'll be ready when that time comes. So yep, there are perks..because when you say I DO, I DON'T should no longer be in your vocabulary.
Love to ya,
PS....Yal already know I'm gon make some King very happy 😉. Whoever you are... I LOVE YOU ALREADY.. hehe!
PPS... Married folk, don't come for me, enjoy your marriage and let me enjoy my singleness.