"10" Perks of Singleness / by Roc Queen


I have heard it over and over and over again that "SINGLENESS IS A GIFT". ๐Ÿ™„ It's not a nicely wrapped box with a big red bow on it. For the sake of my singleness, Iโ€™d like to interchange the word gift with perks, because it makes me feel a lot better about my current relationship staus, haha ๐Ÿ˜‚. Ok Iโ€™m going to jump right into things, no fluff, the goods are below ๐Ÿ˜‰!

  1. #1 is a given, I don't have to answer to anyone. If yal know me I have a strong "get up and go" spirit. I literally don't have to consider a husband or any children.  GO ME!  ME GO !

  2. When I'm home, I'm home. I am thee biggest homebody ๐Ÿ . I just be at home reading, thinking out loud, talking to myself (again if you know me, you know i enjoy my own company), singing loud and off key, and dancing in the mirror. What can I say, I have some free time on my hands.

  3. I have more time to think about and build Roc Queen, www.rocqueen.com.  I can hang out with my youth, help advance the kingdom whether that's serving with a mic or a mop.  All these things make my heart smile ( I wonโ€™t stop doing these things, single or not, I'll just have less time to do so).

  4. Ain't nobody looking at me alllllll thhhheeee timmmmmeee ๐Ÿ‘€. Seriously, that moment after I wash my hair and right before I straighten it, can be very SCARY ๐Ÿฆ. And sometimes my winter lip, bleeds into the spring ๐Ÿ™Š .

  5. I have young girls watching me. I am not around here, moping around talking about "don't nobody won't me ๐Ÿ˜ญ". I ain't posting provocative pictures on social media setting myself up for a thirst trap. I ain't sliding in and out of DMs  ๐ŸŠ๐Ÿพโ€. And I'm not entertaining, engaging, or encouraging  passes from men who are not unavailable.   

    (TRUE STORY, Barb as my witness: I was in Chicago 3 weeks ago, and a married man took off his wedding ring and tried to talk to me. First of all I'm too single and way too observant for that. I saw the 8mm wedding band with a black matte finish, on his finger when I walked in the door (I told you I was observant).  AND just like magic, POOF!! It disappeared!! ๐Ÿ–๐Ÿพ๐Ÿ™…๐ŸพNOPE, I'M NOT THAT GIRL๐Ÿ–๐Ÿพ๐Ÿ™…๐Ÿพ).   
  6. I can change my mind about 15 times before deciding what to have for dinner, WITHOUT somebody getting mad at me ๐Ÿค”๐Ÿ•๐ŸŒฎ๐ŸŒฏ๐Ÿฑ๐Ÿ๐Ÿฃ. Forget it, I'm drinking lemon water... JK sushi it is ๐Ÿฃ.  

  7. Sometimes God wakes me up in the middle of the night and I don't have to whisper. It could be 2am and I'm using my 2pm voice. ๐Ÿ“ข ๐Ÿ“ข๐Ÿ“ข YES GOD? REPEAT THAT, WHAT YOU SAY?....YOU WANT ME TO DO WHAT?!?!?

  8. Ain't nobody checking all my purchases or my frivolous spending. YEP, Iโ€™M GOING TO ANOTHER BASKETBALL GAME, ๐Ÿ€๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ€!!!

  9. More time to prepare for my person ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜: spiritually, emotionally, physically, financially, and mentally. 

  10. And lastly, knowing this isn't forever, and this season is a gift that has its perks. I don't want to treat it like a burden, it won't be like this always and when it ends, I don't want to be singing I woulda, coulda, shoulda. One day I'll be a happy wife, and a even happier mother. And I'll be ready when that time comes. So yep, there are perks..because when you say I DO, I DON'T should no longer be in your vocabulary. 

Love to ya,

Roc ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜

PS....Yal already know I'm gon make some King very happy ๐Ÿ˜‰. Whoever you are... I LOVE YOU ALREADY.. hehe!

PPS... Married folk, don't come for me, enjoy your marriage and let me enjoy my singleness.